Children are by essence moved, restless and spontaneous. They do whatever they want or go through their head at any time without giving much thought to the consequences of their actions. They are moved by sensations, impulses or desires. They think short-term and only pay attention to the present.
They do what they want without putting themselves in the shoes of others. At this stage of early childhood empathy and compassion are conspicuous by their absence. This is the essence of childhood but, on many occasions, the child goes further and manifests aggressive behaviors or is children who do not stop bothering others causing feelings of rejection and discomfort.
In these cases, we must take care to find out what is the reason why our child develops in his environment in this way. Children are children but their behavior has to have certain limits: not everything goes! We must make him understand that his behaviors stop being funny when they start to annoy others.
It is difficult to pinpoint a single cause, it can be for various reasons. However, we present the most frequent ones below:
- Maybe it's bored and use teasing behavior for entertainment.
- You want to get the attention of others.
- He's testing what the limits are.
- You feel frustrated and therefore manifests aggressive behaviors towards others.
- You want to feel that you are in control and in control of the situation.
- You may feel insecure or have low self-esteem. Getting involved with someone who seems a priori "weaker" emotionally or physically often makes children feel more important, more secure.
- Perhaps there is a deficit in social skills and it is necessary to teach the child to function effectively in social situations.
- Sometimes, there is a basic psychological problem that favors this type of behavior to take place.
- Lack of clear boundaries at home. The child may not have learned to treat others with respect and not to push boundaries. Rules and limits at home are essential as they help the child to understand the world around him.
- The child is likely to act this way by imitation. That is, you may have seen a sibling, cousin, or other friend behave in this way and are simply imitating such behaviors.
This type of behavior does not disappear or resolve itself, but rather it is necessary to act so that it stops taking place. The child needs to be taught that such behaviors are unacceptable.
It is recommended that psychological help be sought if, after doing everything in our power as parents, we observe that the child continues to behave in the same way every time they interact with other people.
Thus, the psychologist will be able to help the child to identify and manage their emotions, to reduce their most maladaptive behaviors and, in contrast, will improve their social skills, thus favoring them to cope with other children without difficulties.
In addition, the psychologist will be able to assess if there is any other type of psychological problem that is favoring this type of behavior, such as emperor syndrome, oppositional defiant disorder or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.
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