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One of the main issues that parents have always been concerned with is teaching your children to share. Especially in the case of families in which there are several siblings, this issue becomes one of the main reasons for the fiercest fights, screams and tantrums between the house. To the possessive kids They have a hard time lending their things and consider that everything belongs to them. How to make these children more generous?
We have to be aware that there is a stage of evolutionary development in children from 2 to 5 years old, known as the “egocentric stage”, in which they have not yet developed the ability to understand that the world does not revolve around them. . They still can't understand that other people also have needs and wants that are different from yours. It is up to 6 or 7 years that they gradually begin to come out of this stage, to stop thinking that only your wishes matter and to understand what cooperation means.
However, there are children over 6 years old, who still have a hard time sharing and giving in the things they want. They continue to think that everything belongs to them, and although they want things from the other, they are not willing to share theirs ... his eternal motto is: "it's mine" and it seems that that was reason enough so that nobody else can have the object in question.
Although it seems something very easy to understand, "sharing" for them is an impossible mission.
Next, we offer you a series of tips to develop in our children the ability to share and find the fun part of doing it.
1. Lead by example
It is impossible to ask our children or try to do something that we ourselves as adults sometimes fail. They must live a positive environment at home in which their parents simply share. Don't forbid him to touch your things; When he asks you for something that is delicate or that you are terrified of lending him, bite the bullet and let him hold it emphasizing that it is delicate and that he can only have it for a few moments but that you share it with him because it is important to do so and because you like to make him happy.
If you know there is going to be a game situation where he is likely to have to share, start several days in advance to warn him of the scene to come. Ask him what games he is willing to share and show him how much fun they will have.
3. Try to make the sharing process fun
For them, sharing means giving up something of their own and that doesn't make them happy. However, they should gradually begin to realize how others feel when they share with them. You can buy him something simple on a special day that they can take to school to give to their classmates like cookies, sweets or stamps. This will generate a positive response from their peers that your children will surely want to repeat.
4. Respect their possessions
Ask him for permission to use his things and do not loan them for him. In this way, you will also be modeling the importance of respecting other people's things and asking permission to use them.
5. Teach him the value of sharing through stories and movies
When you read him a children's story or watch a children's movie, whenever possible rescue the examples referring to sharing and make him see all the good that happens around the subject.
6. Work on reciprocity
Teach him through everyday examples the importance of reciprocity. “If you lend they will lend you”, “If you don't, you won't be able to expect others to do it and surely there will be things that you will also want to share with you”.
7. Do not punish him or force him to share
Sharing should always be a voluntary act and if you punish him or force him to do it, you will only generate resentment in him and you will be further from achieving your goal.
8. Propose social service activities
Take them to visit nursing homes, children's homes or hospitals and bring them gifts or do a cute activity like reading to them, acting out a play, cooking something for them, etc. These activities, in addition to being very valuable to aid recipients, will awaken feelings of generosity and empathy in your children.
The task of ensuring that our children can stop thinking only about them and their needs and enjoy making others happy is not easy, but if we try hard enough, it will certainly be worth it.
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